As with any year, this year is going to share its own fair share of challenges and big events. One of the big events for the Church Sofa lads, is that our very own “This Andy” is getting married this year! As such you may see a bit of a wedding vibe to The Sofa over the next months, to start with I’d like to share a few things I believe he needs to remember when planning a wedding…
You’re not going to get it all right.
People love it when you choose a really obscure wedding service venue, followed by a really obscure venue for your reception.
People love it when they go to a wedding service and hear all new songs! So choose the most obscure songs you know!
Think twice before suggesting a wild dress code, and remember: Naked wedding services are never OK!
Remember to actually hire a church… and get people to play the music – if you want music.
Wedding Cake! Everyone loves Wedding Cake. Get plenty of Wedding Cake!
Don’t worry about remembering about where the wedding rings are. Someone will remember where they end up.
When planning a seating plan, always think about what the most entertaining arrangement would be.
Get the best man to recreate that Best Mans speech from Sherlock.
You’re going to upset at least someone, so make a list of people you know, and ensure you upset at least one person a day until you get married. That way you can make sure you upset everyone in equal measure.
We’re going to start a new weekly* series called Hero / Villain of the week. Basically people would be a hero if they did something particularly cool, something note worthy… in a positive way… If someone is awarded “Villain” they just made us wince, sigh, or just shout out “DOH”.
We’re starting with Ben Sheward a verger at Westminister Abbey, who after a successful royal wedding, did cartwheels down the centre aisle. In my mind he managed to show great joyful emotion from the Westminister Abbey crew, sum up the mood of a nation, and provide a fantastic comedy moment at the same time.
Here is that moment:
Sorry about Phillip Schofield.
*We say “weekly” – we may not do another one for months…
[EDIT – 2nd May] Sadly it seems our hero has been looked upon as a Villain by the powers that be, and has been in trouble for showing joy… the Arch Bishop Cranmer is collecting a petition together in his support. May be worth checking it out… Please…
Ok – Consider this blog post to be a ‘public service’ post.
So on Sunday a couple of us went on a tour of the churches around Exeter, looking for suitable wedding venues. We saw some stunning churches, but were our friends allowed to get married there?
(As a side note, after meeting the people involved in some of the churches, would our friends want to get married there?)
If you are wanting to get married by the good old C of E, but are wondering how on earth it all works, you may find the Your Church Wedding site helpful. The most useful part by far is the section that explains what church you can get married in:
You can marry in a CofE church if you can show:-
That one of you:
has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
was baptised in the parish concerned or
was prepared for confirmation in the parish or
has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or
That one of your parents, at any time after you were born:
has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or
That one of your parents or grandparents:
was married in the parish
In all cases involving church services – i.e. going to normal church services, baptism, confirmation or marriage – this applies only to Church of England services. Even if you cannot demonstrate any of the above connections, we want to help you explore whether it may still be possible for you to marry in your special church.
Talk to the Vicar there well in advance to discuss the options open to you.