Imagine. Its Sunday morning, possibly even tomorrow, you’re there in bed struggling to wake up. Maybe it was the kids waking you up over the night, maybe its because you had to watch Doctor Who one more time last night, maybe it was that bank holiday bar b q that lasted a little longer then planned… Either way, the idea of going to Church is feeling more and more like a distant dream. So has you lay there in bed, what excuse could you use for
being hungover not going to Church?
Here is The Church Sofa list of acceptable reasons for not going to Church:
- Your elderly parents wished to visit, and didn’t believe it was Sunday.
- You were so caught up in your morning prayer you didnt know what time it was.
- Wife / kid was sick… Not because of wine
- Jesus told me not to
- You missed Match of The Day the night before (acceptability does vary depending on who you spoke to).
- A random family member (who you’ve never mentioned before) came into town at short notice and popped in.
- You were on your way to church, and saw that someone had broken down. So you stopped and helped! (Sadly helping them out took longer then the church service, or obviously you would have invited the breakdown victim along to church)
- You literally had nothing to wear. (Obviously this wont work if you go to a naked church)
- You figured that you could get a better mornings kip at home rather than listen to the person down to preach. (That one might be true in some cases)
Remember… Sometimes it’s just best to be honest. (Especially if it’s your accountability partner)
Wanting to understand introverts a little more? Check out this TED talk.
Personally I like the points she makes about group work, and spending time on your own. How does that fit in the group based focused of many Churches?
Quite a few years ago I pondered about the existence of Christian Chirp, and MyBlab*. I asked why these sites are set up, and what was so bad about Christians being part of things like Twitter and Facebook?
Christian Tomatoes on the surface might be carrying on this trend, whilst it could have been a Veggietales fan site, it does indeed to be a movie review website… possibly similar to the popular movie website Rotten Tomatoes. But where there seems to be a crowd sourced review feel to Rotten Tomatoes, this thankfully doesn’t seem to be included on the “Christian” site, which thankfully just seems to be a group blog at the moment.
I still find myself wondering the same sort of thing. Why do Christians need to mimic non Christian website ideas?
*It seems these sites have now disappeared from the internet.
Actually, this is just a test post.
Read this interesting article from the Guardian over weekend, looking at the link between suicide and men aged between 20 – 49:
Nine months ago, Jake Mills texted his girlfriend one final time to tell her he loved her – and then he tried to kill himself. “I genuinely felt that I was a burden to a lot of people’s lives,” the 25-year-old Liverpool comedian says. “A lot of people say suicide is a selfish act but, in that frame of mind, if you’re about to kill yourself, you just don’t see anything better.”
Although Jake had been visiting a counsellor, he was just telling her what he thought she wanted to hear. “She discharged me and told me that I was healthy and better. But actually I wasn’t better, I was just better at lying.”
Jake was rescued by his girlfriend and has been confronting his depression ever since. But for all too many men, there is no rescue. Last week, millions were shocked by the suicide of beloved actor Robin Williams. The aftermath has provoked a long-neglected debate about mental health and suicide.
A cursory look at the statistics in Britain suggests it is dearly needed. Suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20 and 49, eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. It is also predominantly a male disorder. Of the 5,981 suicides in 2012, an astonishing 4,590 (76%) were men. And yet while Britain has high-profile campaigns on, say, testicular cancer or driving safely, the biggest killer of men under 50 is not getting the attention it deserves.
Jane Powell is the founder and director of Calm, the Campaign Against Living Miserably, which specifically deals with male suicide. “If you’re a mum, a dad, a loved one, you want to worry about the biggest threat,” she says. “And yet we worry about assault levels, rather than the real killer – suicide.” She makes a provocative case: that while breast cancer does kill men, we rightly focus on it as a female disease. In the same way, suicide prevention has to focus on men. “We need to name the issue,” she says.
Why are so many more men killing themselves than women? “Is it biologically set in stone that men take their own lives – or is it cultural?” Powell asks. “If you look at how the suicide rates have changed, how they go up and down, you can see that it’s cultural – it’s about what we expect.” And this is what is so troubling about male suicide. Women are actually more likely to suffer from depression, but more likely to seek help whey encounter trouble. The uncomfortable truth is that stereotypical forms of masculinity – stiff upper lips, “laddishness” – are killing men.
Read the rest over at The Guardian website.