To put this all into a little perspective: I’m going to be a dad.
Well. Actually. I am a Dad.
Well. The baby’s not born yet, so I guess I’m an expectant dad to be.
I guess being a dad to be has made think about a whole new world of things, such as dirty nappies, the price of lego, and how to paint Toy Story style clouds in the nursery.
I guess, every now and then I think about things like sleepless nights, the helplessness of hearing my child scream itself though teething, and my baby not surviving birth. I dont talk about that last one, and I’m ok with not talking. Like other things, I put it in that Man Drawer in my mind, slam it shut, and get on with life. I dont talk about it because its uncomfortable, because it makes me face possibilities that I’m happy living without thinking about.
The sad truth is that there are people that face or have faced miscarriage, early term loss or early infant loss. If you or someone you know is dealing with something like this, I’d suggest checking out “Saying Goodbye”. Saying Goodbye is a series of events at Cathedrals around the country which (according to their website): “will include music by the resident choirs, gospel choirs and musicians, poetry and readings, multimedia presentations, personal messages, prayers, a message of hope and more. Each will be structured in such a way as to allow you to come and take part, or so you can simply sit and listen”
I’ve spoken to them a few times over Twitter, and they seem like fantastic people involved in quite a sensitive subject. If you are interested in further information, I’d suggest to check out sayinggoodbye.org or @SayingGoodbyeUK.